Today is FREEZING. That promise of snow I mentioned earlier was a promise well-kept - it's almost like a BLIZZARD outside today!
It started yesterday and should continue for a few more days... making life on the driving roads extremely hazardous and at times stressful.
*sigh* I miss summer... I miss warmth... I can't wait to be in a warm place (hopefully) next year. Hmm... yay for my next phase of life. :)
Anyways... onto my story. few days ago I was able to chat with a beautiful beautiful girl named Hannah. Hannah is beautiful, not only physically but inwardly too.
Now I've never personally, physically met Hannah. I learned about her two days after I got engaged... So back on September 6th, I learned that Hannah existed.
The Sunday after I got engaged was a great day! I of course was still walking on clouds... the love of my life just asked me to marry him ontop of a 14,000 foot mountain in the state I grew up in and surrounded by the people we love most in the world. That was Friday.
This was Sunday. September 6th. My tia (spanish for "aunt") came over for lunch to celebrate with us, and during lunch she received a phone call from her daughter, my cousin Jessica. Jess was crying hysterically, so much so that my tia couldn't understand what she was saying.
I watched as my tia's face became very serious and her eyes filled with tears. She replied a few more soft spoken words to Jessica before hanging up the phone. She turned to me, "Jo, do you know Anthony?"
"Yea I do! I knew him from highschool, why?"
"He just died in a car accident."
:(
Needless to say I cried that day. Which was rough. That weekend was such an emotional roller coaster for me... Friday was happier than anything and Sunday I was sadder than I'd been in a long time. I couldn't believe sweet, loveable, stud athlete, hilarious Anthony had died.
That's when I learned about Hannah. My tia told me that Anthony had just become recently engaged a month before his accident. Now, especially due to the recent circumstances in my life(aka recently becoming engaged) that hit even MORE close to home. I couldn't imagine what Hannah was going through. Ugh the ache in my heart was so heavy for her. She was in my prayers immediately.
Well I ended up befriending Hannah, which broke my heart even more because everything she had posted on her profile was all about her love, Anthony, on Facebook and then one day I saw that she was online so I started talking to her.
Facebook chat sucks. It never really works, always freezes up, and more or less is just a huge nuisance than anything else. BUT luckily... today was different. I talked to Hannah for about 30 minutes, introducing myself first as a distant friend of Anthony's and the conversation just took off from there. She explained what happened the day Anthony died, the series of events that followed the accident and how she was doing now.
Tears filled my eyes as I watched each chat series she wrote pop up onto my screen... the story was so incredibly heart-breaking I couldn't even believe it. The things she wrote and told me were so incredibly tragic and made me want to just curl up in a ball and cry my eyes out.
Her story affected me more than I think she realizes though.
As you probably know, I'm recently engaged.... been engaged since September 4th. To the love of my life. I'm so grateful.
And as MANY of you probably know, planning a wedding is stresssssssful, to say the least. Atleast, it can be. And that's what Hannah help put into perspective for me.
This time in my life, when I talked to Hannah, has been nothing but incredibly stressful for me. I'm trying to figure things out with the wedding, plan details, find venues, pick colors, work out my colors with the fact that he'll be in Air Force Uniform.... ahh just a ton of little decisions that are overwhelming and stressing me out.
I can't find a dress that I like perfectly... or then I do but then I find another one that I like as well and it's just stress stress stress piling up!!
On top of that, I've had a bad attitude for like the past month, constantly getting in fights over stupid wedding stuff with my family, and sometimes even Billy... and honestly I've been more depressed about this whole "planning a wedding" thing more than excited and it's just a tough, crappy place to be in... and honestly I didn't see that my horrible attitude about the situation was more of the proble then anything else.
And honestly, I'm not sure how much longer I would've been dragging, well, more like sulking, in my horrible attitude about life and wedding planning, if it wasn't for Hannah.
Here I am, stressing out about finding a "perfect dress" or finding the "perfect colors" and stressing out to the point of being a jerk to the people around me I love the most. Then I meet Hannah.... meet somebody who's life has been dramatically changed, who would do anything to be in my position now, whether it's stressful or not, and here I am taking my fiance, my family, my wedding for granted.
Ugh needless to say I felt HORRIBLE after talking to her. That has been the biggest life lesson I've learned in a while.
Fact is, we aren't guaranteed tomorrow. The love of my life isn't guaranteed to be in my life tomorrow, same with my family.
I've never realized before this time how incredibly crucial your attitude is. Attitude truly is everything. You can choose to be positive in your life, and have a good perspective, or you can choose to just get frustrated, annoyed, or stressed over something that at the end of the day won't matter whatsoever.
What matters most is your perspective and attitude about something. I can choose to love my life, enjoy this time of wedding planning (which honestly is something I've been dreaming about forever,) or I can choose to get frustrated over little things, taking for granted and badly treating the people in my life I love the most.
Life is good::Perspective is Essential.